Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Most children with siblings are pretty sure that they would have been better off as only children. They don't buy into the whole "lonely only" propaganda. I don't actually know very many only children, but I imagine there's a lot of pressure.

I claim that the first is born of ignorance and all subsequent children are born because having the first one killed (or at least numbed) parental brain cells. My daughter and I have another explanation, though. We believe that our parents looked at the first child and said "We can do better than THAT," and had us. They stopped because they had reached perfection. Guess where we are in birth order?

I don't know why parents expect children to be happy about getting a new baby brother or sister. I read something once that really made it all very clear to me. Imagine if your spouse sat down with you one day and said "Honey, I love you so much that I want to have another one just like you. We're going to bring this new member of our family home to live and play with us, all the time. Won't that be wonderful?"

My son thought that was about the funniest thing he'd heard all day. Of course, he's the older child. What does he know?


Claudia said...

I was only child until I was 13. Does that count? I rarely see my brother and he's such a screw up that he makes me look like an angel.

It all worked out. But I was a lonely child. I talked to myself a lot.

I can see both sides, though.

Except for the sex part, I think it would be great to have another woman around the house to help with housework, the kids, etc.

Actually, including the sex part.

"Not tonight, honey. I don't feel like it. Why don't you ask Sarah? She hasn't gotten laid in a while. I'm sure she'd be up for it. Night night."


Clawd :)

Courtney said...

I think that younger sibling don't appreciate one and other; but as they mature things get better. At first the appreciation results from selfishness. Such as, having someone to go sleigh riding with, ride a roller coaster with, do your homework for you, etc. As we age two things really make siblings appreciate one and other, 1) Having children of their own and 2) Burying their parents.